They're always suffer-mores and belittle all your pain.
Anything you experience Anything you say can and will be used against you
My ex narc trauma bonded me by sexually assaulting me fairly early on in the relationship. He explained it as a simple miscommunication, a misjudgement in the bedroom. But it was deliberate. It trauma bonded me to him for the next 4+ years. Bad stuff this trauma bonding and it often bubbles just below the surface of your conscious awareness, keeping you trapped in a relationship which is toxic, one you should run from. ๐ฅ๐ก
One suspected covert narcissist INSTANTLY told me about how poor they were growing up and the death of his sibling within 10 minutes of meeting him.
Its the ultimate "Get Out Of Jail Free" card, always something to fall back on when deflecting and blame shifting arent working.
This one helped me so much thank you i know im not crazy โฆ me and my ex are grieving over our grandmas .. we were first high school sweethearts .hes not taking no for a answer .. im done with him
Trauma bonding with my husband was one thing. Bonding with the first wife who has gone through the same trauma as me for 10 years with our husband (I have only be married for a year), and even bonding with the kids, made it so much harder to leave. I felt that at least I wasn't alone in my experience. As a veteran it is like meeting those who shared in the same crappt experience with the same exact crappy people- you become bonded through your mutual hell. So it wasn't hard leaving him. It was hard to leave my "war buddy" and her kids behind. Especially since I am not pregnant myself with my first child. No idea how my child will have a bond with his/her siblings. ๐๐๐๐๐
That was some good humor, Lee, making Grandma proud!
So glad there is a meet and greet. Iโm in VA I will be there. Thank you so much for all youโre doing.
Do not mistake this for connectionโฆ. Holy Cow!
I am familiar with narcism. I was born in a narcissistic family. My father and mother were born in Surinam. My father was an old man. He died in september 2011. He was 82 years old when he died. In 2019 I went on a date with a 45 year old man. He had taken me out to dinner. After dinner he went with me to a quiet area where we could sit on the water's edge. In the conversation he started he recounted many memories from his past. When it started to become late he decided to leave with me at the edge of the water. We got into his car and he started a conversation about his parents. He told me that after his father died that his mother got cancer and that he had taken care of her for years. This information was a red flag for me. A few days after our date he called me to tell me he liked me and wanted a relationship with me because we had so much in common. I had rejected him. He got mad. He told me that he felt insulted.
Thank you for this, and all of your videos Lee ๐๐ฝ you are truly making a difference in peoplesโ lives. You should be proud of all of your hard work. Btw that color looks nice on you! Have a great day
Year...we both had a broken childhood.
Very good video Lee, thank you ๐๐๐๐ฌ๐ง
Trauma bond buddies! <3
Best video ever Buddy! Do more like this one plz
Hello Lee thank you for these videos they really help me. Can you make a video about what might happen if you put your narc abusive husband in jail?
Thatโs what he did on day one. Now weโre trauma bonded
Have it at the conference room in the Westin
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