@JohnSmith-wo7ns
They are chasing someone who they think can take all their turmoil away! Obviously that person doesn't exist. They have to do the work and look within, but most cant cos its too difficult and they are too lazy and selfish!!
@Amazingme17
What a strange & sad personality to have & live with. This was real. Currently separated and happier than EVAAAAA
@meditatemoor
Happiness comes from gratitude and the narcissist is not grateful namaste'
@louiseelizabeth9613
SO TRUE!!! Toxic behaviour aside, my new was ALWAYS miserable! He'd have odd really ott moments of happiness, then back to grumpy. His parents say he's always like that. He was always envious of everything, nothing was EVER good enough, new house, new car, new baby, new promotion... And he always needed CONSTANT praise and attention. I didn't know the emotional/financial/sexual abuse was abuse (I knew something was wrong, but didn't know the behavior had names etc) BUT I knew he was exhausting and I was constantly having to "fill his cup" even when mine was empty...
@scotttully8572
Joy is found within, where most narcs dare not go.
@kaanalove5849
This is crazy! I just talked to my ex narc about this about an hour ago! I went in on this topic. He was quiet as a mouse. Happiness comes from WITHIN....anything outside of you should just add to your happiness. The "source" of happiness is within. Otherwise your striving after the wind
@MsNooneinparticular
Ppl w/ ADHD & depression experience anhedonia/boredom/lack of joy too but usually don't go around hurting people. As someone w/ inattentive ADD and atypical depression (the kind that causes oversleeping, overeating & leaden heavy limbs), I can feel happy or upbeat but it takes a lot more to get there and like you said, it's fleeting. Opioids have unfortunately been the only thing that's helped long-term and only because I don't abuse them. I find myself appreciating the small things like a pretty day or catching up with an old friend while normally I'd need to win the lottery to experience that level of joy.
@kellywatts9562
The compartmentalization is so true. My partner has betrayed me (not cheating, but still betrayals) and then he'll turn around and say he loves me so much.
@margarethollis5620
This was one of the most frustrating things in my relationship with a narcissist! Watching him in this endless pursuit of the thing that will make him happy. He would tell me often that he has never been really happy in his life. There was one really great, positive thing that happened in his life and he said he was finally truly happy.....it lasted a few short weeks and he was looking for more!
@ravennalovecraft421
After a while I noticed sex was becoming somewhat of a "band-aid" for the relationship,in where, as soon as I felt like putting out when we finally saw each other, it was fantastic and he had no complaints,until the feeling wore off. God forbid I was having a cycle, or was sick and didn't feel like being physically intimate because I was pain. It was as if I were doing him a disservice, but he would make me feel guilty about it, and ultimately he would tell me he just wouldn't touch me anymore to avoid making me feel "uncomfortable". It made me feel gross and unwanted, while also feeling how desperately he wanted my physical attention and validation at the same time. Several times, I genuinely thought I was the one depriving him of love, when it was just his attachment to it, the idea of it, and the pursuit of it so he could keep me there to supply him. NEVER let it get this far, don't even let yourself believe it might, just leave while you have a chance to keep yourself to YOURSELF.
@In_time_my_beloved_Kate
I just wanted to say thank you...seriously. Tonight I was rock bottom...I blocked my ex narc and also a family member realising he was also a narc and treated me exactly the same way. I was broken and so confused....I could hear all the gaslighting...all their words like no its you, you're insane it's it's in your head etc. I didn't have anyone to talk to or any support at all and I stumbled upon your YouTube video. To say it was a desperate moment for me would be a huge understatement. So seriously I want to say thank you because you videos gave me a moment of strength and reminded me of the truth. Thank you for sharing 🙏❤
@carlamitchell466
You can't look for Validation in others u have to be Content with yourself. My ex was always looking for the next best thing. Nothing ever made him happy. God will bring you joy unspeakable joy. He would always say I love praise. The more love I showed him the more he devalued me. Best thing u can do is love yourself enough to move on. Took me 3 years to break free but the last 2 months I have felt so Much Empowerment.
@hamashiachreignsforever6867
Most Narcs I know say out their mouth they feel void and empty inside. Never been happy and are trying to fill their voids. That’s how I knew to drop them like a bad habit. Nothing can help them with whatever screws they’re missing. They are also not our problem. Go no contact and leave them in their miserability.
@heatherview3870
I love the analogy of the water being poured into a broken cup. It’s a great one.
@StarflyerT
I told Mom before I moved out "I cannot be your source of happiness. I cannot provide happiness." She said she understood until the narc blow up in Jan. Nope, she didn't understand and was trying to blame is for her unhappiness.
@meditatemoor
Also the narcissistic people in my life turned out to be more codependent than me...
@winnie879
Hey Lee, thanks a lot for taking the time to explain this. As a positive person one of the hardest things to wrap my head around was, why couldn’t my ex stay happy? Why was it that he would always be upset after we would have a great day, or after something good would happen. You laid it out perfectly!
@djw8504
Your videos are saving my life and I want you to know how much I appreciate you! Keep saving lives Lee!💛
@AlexandraReverie777
I just wanna say I watch a lot of your vids and i respect the hell out of you for being so up front and honest about all of this. My ex husband will never admit he's a narcissist and literally thinks he's a good person and a Saint, or that's what he goes to great lengths to portray to everyone. Completely slammed my name to the ground and turned a lot of people against me from nothing, along with MANY other things of course. Been ten years and it still messes with me. Your channel has helped heal and validate my experience. Thank you.
@shari3718