@Souloftheexplorer
I healed my narcissism. I was completely sucked into it all: image, social media, status, “winning”, control, manipulation, etc. It is absolutely possible to change. It took me years of deep trauma work, energy work, developing awareness, and a genuine desire to change and be a better person, no matter what you might have to give up. Now I have loving, reciprocal relationships in my life and I am very grateful for that.
@cassietalks
Thank you! Finally someone else stating self love is the key to not being manipulated. Narcs won’t pursue a self loved confident person because you’ll fill no purpose for them and they need that narcissistic supply, it’s survival for them. Thanks again. Nice video. ✌️❤️
@Sishel
I didn’t realize my mother is narcissistic until my early 30’s, and now I’m struggling to undo the trauma and the damage. When I finally had the courage to tell her I was not ok with how she was treating me, she exploded and said I was a terrible daughter (among many things) and hasn’t spoken to me in 6 years! She totally projected! I wish I had known about these red flags when I was younger. Thank you for spreading this knowledge!
@leedatsit1799
Kudos for knowing narcissists actually hate themselves rather than loving themselves. This I think is why Christ said to love our neighbor AS ourselves - not more than, not less than. It helps preclude narcissistic behavior.
@Orton93
I like that this puts emphasis on narcissistic traits rather than "Other-ing" narcissists. People have gotten too comfortable labelling others as narcissists with zero introspection. "Oh well they're a narc so i dont need to worry about anything I've done." You can only change your own behavior, people. Even in situations you're fully in the right, it doesn't hurt to look inward and reflect.
@iPrecipice
Yes. "We all engage in narcissistic behavior on occasion." This is so important to be heard in a world where self reflection is often shallow; just deep enough to serve to satisfy one's own emotional discomfort. I do wish to point out a consideration on the last point though, "Narcissism is not excessive self love, but a lack of self love." It's more so that Narcissism is extreme self love, just a very shallow form. It's reassurance of the self, blind to the consideration of others, except to it's relationship to the self. I know this sounds like splitting hairs, but it is one of those things where a fine distinction can make a world of difference. I know that this is just a video and so you have to keep some points general and short, but as you mentioned it is a very important point. I state this because you go on to mention our own lack of self-love can make us vulnerable to the narcissist. It's important to recognize that even though the love is shallow, it can still be excessive, since the more narcissistic the individual is, and the longer they've been like this, there is a good chance that they have given themselves layers of shallow love from different sources or excuses of personal validation. This is often the case because of just how insecure the individual is, and the more they need to layer this the longer they continue this way. It's also important to recognize it is still an excessive but shallow love, because due to this, some narcissists are a bit more crafty and can be hard to reveal, until they are in a situation were they just can't manage to hold the mask together anymore. There is always subtle signs, but for those of us who recognized that we all can share in narcissistic traits, it can sometimes be harder to discern the more covert and skilled ones. Anyway, that's all. As always, great video! Always love them.
@gUdLuCkKiD
Your video a few years ago about narcassism really opened my eyes as to the type of relationship I was in. And now a few years later, I am happily divorced and focusing on my future. This one went into even more detail and shows I made the right choice. Thanks Charlie!
@infinitedurr
Re: Point #4-- to be fair, most people don't respond well if you start poking at their self image. Start challenging someone's motivations or view of themselves, and there's a good chance they'll feel attacked, violated, or offended. And I think that's pretty reasonable, because generally speaking, poking at someone's self image is often a way that people attack other people's characters, and often a very codependent, unboundaried thing to do. But I agree that the projection piece is what defines a narcissistic tendency. The immediate flipping of the script is shocking, and the conviction with which they do it typically feels much more intense than whatever it is that they're responding to. It's this lack of inquiry and introspection into themselves, the complete absence of humility about their actions that really defines the narcissist's behavior
@RussellClausse
It's terrible when you see all of these traits in those you work under. Working with a narcissistic, egoistic manager is probably the worst you can go through in a workplace! Massive difference between working for someone out of respect, and working for someone because you have to.
@writeordie5452
How long until Logan threatens to sue Charisma on Command?
@BigDaddyDru
I love how you remind us we are all humans who are imperfect, but still worthy of dignity, respect, and the benefit of the doubt. It makes the self reflection you suggest a lot easier to do. Great channel!
@cowboysfan782008
I'm 54 with 30+ years sales experience, which means I've dealt with just about every kind of personality, and this video is spot on. I would also say that the topic probably plays twice as big of role in the modern info age of texting, # of likes, FB friends, and anything else people get gratification from that actually holds little substance. Seeing all of the changes from the 70s to today I'd say the biggest dif today is that too many ppl today are so self involved and weak that they just won't compete if there's a threat of looking bad, but they will def have a good excuse for not.
@She_McGee
Re the narcissistic rage - the narc(s) in my life have projected a TON of their crap onto me - took me years, or even decades to realize they were projecting everything all the time. My reaction to their projections was usually a combination of hurt, contusion, shame and then i looked inward to ask myself if those accusations were true, which they generally were not at all, so I just ignored or forgot about the claims. THEY, on the other hand, when I'd give constructive criticism re their treatment of me, or someone else (in one case, their vulnerable child) reacted with extreme hostility, even if at the time it was only a really nasty glare. The problem is when you don't recognize the projections and have no idea they are also telling others, behind your back....and you've had a long-term smear campaign being waged against you....often because of one honest ACCURATE and even gentle (aka walking on eggshells) criticism directed toward them. Their projections usually lack any of those qualities - honest, accurate or gentle. Narcs do not give constructive criticism designed to better you, they accuse, designed to shame you for their faults. Its a mind-warp.
@thebradderlife
This video made me feel more confident in what I thought someone’s doing to me. The break downs really helped me see how people really are being to me
@3lit3gn0m3
So...narcissism is kind of like living in a way where you're forcing yourself and others to love you in a subversive manner more than you actually love yourself? Almost sounds like a form of psychological mind-control, or an attempt at it. : \
@YF-ey7uq
I experienced bullying, verbal abuse rage , projection from the person I loved the most. The rage is real when there positive image is threatened. I did my mistakes because I kept giving chances thinking he'll change, I remember the first verbal attack left me in a very dark confused place.
@theosname
When I was a kid, I experienced a lot of self-loathing and low self-confidence. Retrospective analysis was my only skill at the time. So, my ego was fed from drawing correct conclusions and I would get very defensive when errors in my work were discovered as they would shatter the meager self-confidence I had for days or weeks. I would also make fun of others and push them down to prop myself up, but that was as far as I went to victimize others for my own pride. As I got older, I learned many new skills; some to expert levels. I'm physically stronger than most, a life veteran, and I hate to express it but I'm also a higher class in my society. My self-confidence level is no longer dependent on things I cannot control, nor damaged by other peoples' successes. I feel lucky that these things have happened for me, because without them, I might have ended up as a narcissist too.
@user-em6ie2be7x
A sure sign you're talking to a Narcissist is if their totally materialistic & are about as deep as a Kiddie Pool when it comes any conversation.
@IamRa-18
This is super satisfying watching Logan being so easily dissected by the genius of this channel
@no_lft_shft